Rukma Vasudev
– a tribute
Rukma, meaning gold, true to her name, turned a golden girl when she topped MA in Mass Communication and Journalism, bagging six gold medals. This was just the base for building her pyramid of success and achievements. For a span of 4-5 years she took up a challenging stint as a technical writer, bagging the in-house achievement award, alongside forming warm friendships along the way. Soon the lure of an academic career beckoned her and she hopped happily to the pristine environment of Manipal to explore her potential in the art of teaching along with coordinating extra curricular activities. She excelled in both. She had the opportunity to showcase her skills at a few foreign universities that enlarged her perspective. Soon the wedding bells came ringing and she happily tied the knot with Prasad, one with extraordinary credentials. Soon after this divine intervention she spent a few years in Belgium leading a blissful married life. During the same period she also presented papers at a few universities/conferences, gave guest lectures at a few colleges here and there, and also enrolled for her PhD back home. Her determined efforts and strong backing by Prasad led her to present her thesis with aplomb. This was no mean achievement as she had to split time between India and Belgium. Once the couple settled on home turf, she re-entered the portals of academics and started her stint at Jain University, Bangalore. During this stint, apart from other extra curricular activities, she got the privilege to address the media and appeared on TV. Some time later she decided to explore newer pastures and did a great stint at Deshpande Educational Trust, Hubli, as Trainer of Trainers. As additional responsibilities came hounding her she rejoined Jain University with a part-time option. In between she copy edited a book or two for IISc Press and Manipal University Press. Additionally, she handled a translation work of a book, and also a transcription. An unique opportunity at a software MNC lured her away from the academic portals to the corporate world. She was hired as Technical Editor at CLS Q2. Alongside she handled projects like recording videos of English grammar classes for Akka channel of Akka Mahadevi University, conducting online soft skill sessions, addressing a webinar hosted by KUD, attending numerous webinars actively, partaking of ISKCON webinars, apart from pursuing art from Chitrakala Parishad, growing a small potted home garden, pursuing spiritual engagements, and so on. Like Prasad she was an avid traveler and got to visit 23 countries in this short tenure. These include rare places like Bethlehem in Israel, The Vatican City, Wales, and so on. The list was to grow with each passing year. But her departure through the final portal came along and she did that with aplomb too, working on her job and projects right till the time the portal almost closed down on her.
Never a frown nor a tear!
What a way to lead a life!!
It’s not about how long you live, but how best you live!
Anekashaastram bahu veditavyam I
Alpashcha kaalo bahavashcha vignaaha II
Yathsaarabhootham tadupaasitavyam I
Hanso yatha ksheeramivaambu madhyé II
There are various fields of knowledge to pursue;
Time is short, lots of hurdles;
So that whichever is meaningful you pursue;
Like the swan which draws out only the milk from the milk-water mixture!
Rukma seems to have lived her life accordingly! Hats off, dearest Rukma, we, your family will ever remain proud of you!
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Rukma Vasudev 
Such vivid, beautiful memories of our childhood and togetherness during every phase of our lives….Rukma, my dear little sister, is such an integral part of my whole being!
With a heart of gold, she is the sweetest and this is validated by everyone who knows her. Universally loved by all and extremely talented with a multitude of achievements from winning numerous gold medals during her MA (in Mass Communication and Journalism) to achieving higher pinnacles of glory by completing her PhD with flying colours, working at reputed universities( where she was her students’ favourite), traveling extensively all over the world, working in information technology corporate world as technical editor besides starting off as an entrepreneur with ‘Communication Chord’ delivering numerous communication related sessions across Karnataka, some even along with my mom.
There are numerous other such accolades and awards my little sister very humbly accepted as part and parcel of life….Down to earth, simple and innocent regardless of her esteemed accomplishments.
Indeed, I am so proud to be her sister and I have always been telling this to her.
As my only sibling, I had her support in all that I did and vice versa, we would call each other anytime of the day, talk on any topic related to anything on this planet( in addition to our normal WhatsApp chats). It’s hard to fathom the depth of this huge void!! She was so caring and giving…the only consolation perhaps is that I know she will be there for me always.
Our angel chose Thursday, Karthika Ekadashi, one of the most auspicious days of the year and the most celebrated day at Pandrapur, abode of Shri Vittala and Ma Rukmai.I have since then read more in detail about the significance of this day in Hinduism. She is blessed indeed and signalled to us mortals that she is treading the path straight to heaven. A true reflection of her virtues.
My husband, her Jiju, is extremely pained as well. He will continue to admire both her and Prasad Bhava as a power couple and will always look up to all her accomplishments. It’s difficult to explain to my little ones that their loving, sweetest Chikki is in heaven but is also with us always. They love her so much and are too small to comprehend what is happening….Indeed, it’s so surreal right now. We (my parents, husband, kids and brother-in-law), are all in a way trying to understand and process this harsh reality. Life is definitely not the same and she has enlightened us with a true sense of direction.
“Love you, my dear sister. You are such a gift to this world, you had so much more to give …..but God took you away too soon. Wish we could build many more memories together.”
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She is my school friend.. A beautiful soul & a loving friend. Very caring by heart❤. She loves cats very much and me too. Her beautiful heart is such that she personally used to msg in wats app & ask abt my pet cats.. Rukma, a loving heart❤
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Tears rolled down when I read about Chendaa Hudgi.
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Rukma, our dear sweet and youngest cousin. We had the most fun in our childhood competing with each other to hold and cuddle her. She had the charm and innocence which she carried through her adulthood. We have so many happy and sweet memories of our childhood spent with my aunt, uncle, Prithvi and Rukma. We continued to stay in touch through email and chat. I am so proud of all her achievements and accomplishments and I very proudly will say that even though she was the youngest, she was the most accomplished. Her smile with her very deep sweet dimples would light up the room and now she must be lighting up the Heavens above. We love you Rukma and your void can never be replaced.
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Your childhood antics and dimpled smiles had us mesmerised
Show us shakthi yencha barpuna
Just one more time
Your way of spelling tulu words in English
Made meal times fun and entertaining
U-M-P rice, K-O-D-E-L sambhar, S-A-R-U rasam
Add to the list yet another time
Holding hands I’d drop you in your playschool in glass bazaar every day
Slip your little hand in mine
Just one more time
When I went to Mysore for Dasara sports
I spotted a pretty little ring which I knew you’d just love
The hugs I got from you as I slipped it into your finger
Can I get some more?
You visited five- month old Dhiganth to spend time with him
After a week of cuddles and kisses your statement that he is the cutest kid ever, went into his baby book
Can he get more cuddles?
You and I had a blast shopping, cooking and talking into the nights
You loved my breakfast bread toast bajis
Can I cook it for you one more time?
We enjoyed your wedding; running around and stopping you from running around!
We enjoyed your shy smiles as we teased you about Prasad
Can you give us that sweet smile again and again?
When you came for your Belgium Visa and visit new born Diya
My amma asked you to get a small nail cutter for the baby and you hunted about and got one.
I still use it, can you cut her nails for her this time?
When we met at your sis-in-law’s wedding in Chennai
We posed and clicked to make our sisters feel J
I need more, more pictures
Can we pose together?
Ruk, Ruk, our baby Ruk we need you
Come, hold us tight, never never let go.
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Yes, ruku, ruku ruk….. the song that was meant to tease her. But she loved it!
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RUKMA, a unique name for a unique personality snatched away in its prime by the cruel designs of Destiny.
With my limited interactions with her what is indelibly stamped in my memory is the ever smiling and beaming face. She seemed to be an embodiment of all positivity of life. The shades of negativity, if any, seemed to be banished to the recess of ulterior persona. The burden of her commendable achievements never weighed down her innate humility.
A blessed soul, indeed!
I used to fondly remember her on special occasions like her birthday, Prasad’s birthday, Ugadi, Deepavali, New Year etc and she never failed to acknowledge. It is painful to accept that the thrill of such interactions is usurped from my life. ( Though it is just a whimper when compared to the grief of those nearer)
Enough it is to say that something beautiful passed my way.
It is truly said that those dearer to God die young. No wonder that He chose to beckon you on a special day! We all love you and fondly remember you, Rukma.
May you rest in a state of Eternal Peace!
– Padmanabh uncle (as you used to call me)
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Decades ago you had said that she would become very close to me as I grew older. Come on, I’m yet to grow older, and she has left in a hurry before she even touched old! Rukma, we needed to make uncle’s words come true as he predicts correctly. Why such a hurry, dearest?
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MY MEMORIES WITH OUR GOLDEN GIRL
Now all that comes to my mind is the wonderful days of my childhood which we sisters have enjoyed together. May it be ‘amma aata’ or ‘teacher aata’, my childhood games would be incomplete without Prithvi and Rukma.
Ruku or Ruks as I would call her, our dear Rukma was the sweetest and youngest in our family.Though being the youngest in our family she achieved the highest . Being a gold medalist in MA, she strived hard and went on to do her Ph.D and became Dr.Rukma from Rukma, a very proud moment for all of us indeed.She being a very active person, would not waste a moment and so joined MIC in Manipal to become a professor in Mass communication. During her stay here in Indrali we all have spent such golden moments together. We would visit each others house during the weekends or go out to the beach or visit some temple. Whenever aunty came she also would join us.We have celebrated festivals and new year’s eve together giving a warm hug to each other.I want to relive those moments. Later, it was time for her to get married.She therefore left Udupi and shifted to Bangalore to be with Prasad. She continued to work in Jain University not wanting to get disconnected with the noble teaching profession.She selflessly helped and supported students and her friends with whatever problem they came up.She would write beautiful articles and poems, an articulate writer and speaker that she was. Her writings spill out the in depth interest and knowledge she had about the particular subject. A creative painter, a cute singer and above all a very beautiful person with a radiant smile.
She would always inspire and encourage me to enroll for a Ph.D program making me realise my worth.
Oh, I am going to miss it all, we are going to miss it all…the whatsapp chats, the sharing of pics of festivities and events..all this and more …all this and
more..
But you will always be alive in our heart and soul dear Dr. Rukma….we love you.
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Rukma has been that beautiful child with a beautiful smile and a beautiful heart. She had that halo effect which elevated her to another plane all together. She signified the phrase “It’s not how long you live but how best you live”, which matters in the end. The end here is the beginning of a new journey, that of the intellectual mind and the illuminating soul towards salvation. What has been left behind is her incredible footsteps to follow. She shall stay in my thoughts for as long as I live and my love for this beautiful soul shall remain infinite.
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Rukma, such an affectionate girl. Although she lived a short life, she made sure to achieve great heights, not just academically but also with people. She showed love and care. I used to enjoy receiving messages from her and be part of her accomplishments. Extremely positive person. Rukma dear, you will always remain in my memory.
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Rukma! The very name brings warmth and a smile.
She was such a sweet person…and always wondered how can a person be sooo composed all the time.
The best part is …her humbleness.
She always encouraged all her classmates, appreciated their work and always ready to lend a helping hand to anyone in need.
Will always remember her for simplicity and smile ..
She will forever remain with me…
Till we meet again……
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Rukma, Ruks….always smiling, happy, curious, caring, a perfectionist…the list goes on and on…. I always admire her for her positive spirit, the way she pictured her life, the way she did whatever she thought of and did it so wholeheartedly…
Ruks, my dear friend since our degree days… I remember the first day we met when she offered to drop me home on her scooty..and then our expeditions continued…She would share her thoughts with me and encourage me to be a little more expressive in her own sweet ways. She would often fill me with new words from her extensive vocabulary…Just a few days back she had shared encouraging words with me on my new interest along with a list of things that I should be doing to continue it…that is how much involved she was…
I cannot remember even one instance where she did not sport her dimpled smile. Always happy. Curious about everything. Concerned about everyone around her. Admired by everyone who knew her…
I am proud to have known her, for being her friend. It is very difficult for me and my family to fathom whatever has happened…We will always remember her….
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Rukma is a beautiful soul with bright mind, sweet smile and so simple, and down to earth.
She is a school friend and we met after many years and yet felt like same old very simple and caring friend.
She makes every effort to meet or take time to talk to all her friends and spread warmth of a true friend.
Very inspiring to everyone around her.
Miss you angel… you will always stay in our hearts.
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Rukma…
Naanu avala atte. Sodara mamana hendathi. Namma kutumbadalle Rukma, ellarikintha chikkavalu. Aadare, ellarakintha modalu, kartika Ekadashi a Dina devara pada seridalu.
Prithvi avala akka. Avaribbaru, nanna mooru hennamakkalu, Bellaryalli vottige beladavaru . Obbaranobbaru andare ellarigu Preethi.
Rukmana appa, amma, volle samskara kottu belesiddare. Kaliyuvadalli ibbaru jaanearu. Haage avaribbarugu jeevanasangatiyaru avarige anookulanagiye sikkidare. Ishtella khushi iruvaga vidhiya sankalpave bere.
Prati habbakku nanige namaskara tilisi , nimma ashirvada beku atte endu message maduthidalu. Innella adu nenapagiye iruvudu. Ondu valle ratnavannu kaledukondavu . Nammagella a dukhavannu tadedu kolluva shakti devaru kodabeku. Navella ottige kulithu oota maduva paddathi. Rukmanige aaga, 2/3 varsha. Umpu (anna) ge, u.m.p. ,ump,Beku atte endu heluvaga namagella tumba nagubaruvudu. Aa nagu mukha eegalu nenapaguttade.
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I am Medha, Rukma’s niece.
If I had met you, that one time,
I would have told you, that you’re divine,
And I didnt know you, until this moment,
But I wish I did, before this.
My mom is crying in the kitchen,
Why couldn’t this have been an illusion?
You left the world behind, probably bearing that smile,
I hope you know we love you.
And though I couldnt tell you,
I hope you’re watching from above and hearing everything we’re saying,
Because we miss you,
I hope you’re bearing that smile while listening to us talk about you,
And I know you’re still with us,
Surrounding us with this aura of ecstacy,
Staying beside us,
Within these memories.
Please visit the blog page for the audio (https://rukma.in/2020/12/06/poem-by-medha/)
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Rukma-Ever smiling beautiful soul,full of love and faith, angel in human form ascended to heaven. The loss is unbearable to our family but will always cherish the little time we spent at her house at Indrali. She made it so special.
The memories of our sweet sister will always be connected to our hearts into infinity.
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Childhood memories are shaped by the beautiful moments we create with our cousins. Rukma, almost my age but a year or so older, was the kindest and calmest cousin among us all.
I remember Rukma & her family visiting us for Deepavali holidays in the early 90s. I remember playing badminton with Prithvi & Rukma in Bellary when we had visited (I was in 2nd grade, and was upset at having lost the game, and both these sisters playfully cheered me up!). Those were the pre-whatsapp, pre-mobile days of innocence – where family vacations were the only ways to connect.
During my college years, I got to meet Rukma often whenever I visited Vasu mama & Sandhya Aunty. It was always delightful to exchange ideas with Rukma about so many different perspectives in life, including her passion for marketing, teaching & communications. During those years, she too was wrapping up her college studies – and we were motivating & helping each other to do well in our studies and careers. During this time, she also sent me Rakhis. We continued to keep in touch – and I would always enjoy reading her travel blogs, poems and writings.
It is one thing to chase a goal. It’s very rare to conquer it and excel at it. Rukma is the greatest example of this. She not only did her MA in communication, she won gold medals (6 of them!). And then continued on to get a PhD – the only one in our family. And she spread her knowledge and ideas across the globe. She accomplished a lot more in many other spheres of life – music, painting, birds, nature, travel, writing, education, youth-training and more. She knew how to appreciate the divinity in classical music. Her loss is a loss for the arts too. She was a class apart, and a cultural evangelist.
Few achieve what Rukma achieved in her life. But even with all of these achievements, she was extremely humble, genial and kind to everyone. Every single person who has interacted with Rukma, even if just once, has left with a feeling of sunshine and happiness in their heart. She greeted every single person with a giant smile and spoke to them in a way that made them feel cared for. She never once raised her voice or got upset.
My last interaction with Rukma was a few years back. We had met at a family function and caught up with Rukma and Prasad. Many days later, even after though function was long over, Rukma and Prasad took the time to travel all the way from their end of the city to pay us a special visit. There was no agenda, no motive. She and Prasad only wanted to meet us and greet us. A few other relatives at our home who met Rukma for the first time that day – still remember feeling so special after talking to her that day.
This is why it’s so painful to know that Rukma is no more. It’s hard to believe, and heart-wrenching for all of us. But it is even more devastating for her parents, her sister Prithvi, and Prasad. Our heartfelt prayers for giving strength to them during this terribly tough time.
Rukma – you will live in our hearts forever. We miss you. We will think of you and thank you for the memories you have left behind – and whenever we do so, we will remember that you always made each one of us smile, everytime.
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Dearest Rukma,
Memory is a way of holding on to the things we love and cherish the precious moments which we create with people we cherish and love. Rukma you are one such beautiful person who will always remain evergreen in my precious memories of the people I love and cherish.
I really miss the beautiful times spent with you, I miss your love, care and support which you always gave me and all us friends. Your cute dimpled smile is etched in my heart. You were a beautiful soul indeed.
I admired your persona when I got to know you during our initial BBA degree days. Later as we got close to each other, you became a source of motivation and inspiration for me. Your innate dedication towards things really inspired me and I would so proudly tell about you to my parents. My parents really admired you so much.
I miss and will always miss the sound of your voice, the care and affection you showed me and others, the wisdom in your advice, the genuine care in your actions. Even recently when I showed my aspiration for writing, you came to me with so much motivation and took my writings to your mother and you got back to me with immense valuable advice from her. You were unique Rukma with a golden personality absolutely true to the meaning of your name ‘as pure as gold’.
I cannot fathom what has happened but now I realise what a special place you have created in all our hearts. You have left us for your heavenly abode, but no matter where you have gone, you will always be alive in our hearts. I really truly wish we could hold on to you and keep you with us here.
No matter how many friends I/We have, please always know that no one can ever replace you,none. Rukma you were, are and will always be irreplaceable.
You shined brightly as a star with every outstanding accomplishment and success that you achieved. Even though now that you are not amidst us your brightness will shine for all time, bright and radiant just as the rising sun.
Your life was a beautiful blessing for all your loved ones, your memory a treasure for all of us. You have touched numerous hearts in your lifetime.
You will always be in my heart, you will always be eternal, my dearest friend Rukma.
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I still remember the day when Vasanna (Rukma’s father ) came home to announce the birth of his second daughter. And then she arrived in Hospet the cute beautiful baby with her mother. Have seen her cry, smile, take the first few steps, utter the first pitter-patter. Then I lost touch because I got married and was catapulted into my new family. Of course, I would meet her parents on and off and would enquire about her.
Then, last year all of a sudden she visited us along with Sandhya Akka (her mother). Such a beautiful, serene soul. I wondered at the serenity on her face. And then last week out of the blue got this message which jolted me and I started thinking am I not talking to people as much as I should be. I would have thought a hundred times to call Sandhya Akka during this pandemic period, but somehow something or the other got in the way. How would I know that this would happen!
I have also had the good fortune of a brief connection with Rukma professionally also. Now all those are memories and only memories.
In Gita Shri Krishna says:
जातस्य हि ध्रुवो मृत्युर्ध्रुवं जन्म मृतस्य च |
तस्मादपरिहार्येऽर्थे न त्वं शोचितुमर्हसि || 27||
jātasya hi dhruvo mṛityur dhruvaṁ janma mṛitasya cha
tasmād aparihārye ’rthe na tvaṁ śhochitum arhasi
BG 2.27: Death is certain for one who has been born, and rebirth is inevitable for one who has died. Therefore, you should not lament over the inevitable.
But we being human cannot but lament when a beautiful flower is plucked away too soon before it could fully bloom!
“Hare Krsna Hare Krsna Krsna Krsna Hare Hare
Hare Rama Hare Rama Rama Rama Hare Hare”
Sujatha
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Rukma..
My school friend, I always admired Your beautiful smile and often was speechless that how a person can be so down to earth with such extraordinary qualities.. Your absence will always be void in our life…It’s difficult to accept the reality..Miss you a lot Rukma..
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Rukma..Ruku as we fondly called her..my first cousin..the girl who always had the warmest smile on her face. Her trademark beautiful deep dimples portrayed the beauty inside her heart. Out and out the kindest soul, someone who had empathy and compassion towards anyone she met.
Jyothu and I have such beautiful memories with her from our childhood. From spending our summer holidays at Bellary and Hubli with her to having long conversations during our adolescence, not a moment where she wouldn’t have that smile and those sparkly eyes brightly lit with her zest for life. She was always there for people. She always cared. She always remembered special occasions and always acknowledged a wish no matter how busy she was. She sent so much love and wishes to my kids and never forgot to check in on them or tell me how blessed I should be for them. When my Mom and Papa moved to Bangalore she always made sure to check in on them no matter where she was. They adored her and still cannot fathom she isn’t around here. She was always the first one to call to ask if any of us needed help with anything. Such was her compassion.
Extremely talented, very very wise and a maturity beyond her young age, she truly embodied an unmatched spirit. How I still wish that someone would wake us all up and tell us this didn’t happen and it was all a terrible dream.
I last met Ruku in 2017 when she was in the US and I still remember our conversation where I was sharing something about my career challenges and personal journey and she told me how we should all be more brave and do what we love to do and it is ok to take the time to figure it out. Never be afraid was her motto. She said she had the support and wings to pursue what she dreamt of and she credited it to Prasad her comrade and her family, her strongest team with such pride and such humility. All through our conversation I remember this sparkle in her eyes and inherent quiet confidence in her expressions. That she was supremely talented with achievements galore is something that speaks for itself but beyond all this was the kind of human being she was.INSPIRING.
We will miss her, we always will. There is a void in all of us who have known her and whose lives she has touched in different ways. Despite her young age, she left a mighty impact on all who knew her. The Almighty up there knew how special she was which is why she went straight to him on such an auspicious day. She was too good.. too precious. I am sure she is still smiling from up there with those dimpled cheeks. Let’s celebrate her being, let’s celebrate her life. She will always remain the beautiful soul.
Love you dear Rukma and I hope you light up heaven like the way you lit up everyone around you. Sending our love and wishes to you and keeping you in our thoughts. You will always be special.
Posted on behalf of us all- Ramesh Uncle, Sarita Aunty, Anant, Amari, Varun, Jyothisha, Avin, Anya.
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Dear Rukma,
Dear friend,
I saw you for the first time in Belgium, a small foreign land where you and Prasi started your wonderful journey together. You always brightened the room with your enthusiasm and smile. My mom liked you a lot when she visited us during our Belgian wedding. My mom liking someone so much says a lot about you because she has very high standards when it comes to liking people.
Remember the trip we took to Dinant where we went for the first time (at least first for me, Prasi, and you and not for Ruth) for kayaking. What a wonderful day it was. I remember how daring you were and how not-daring Prasi was:-). Later we went to Krishna temple (or first we went to the temple and then to kayaking). Later in the same year, we heard the great news that GroepT wanted you to become part of their faculty even before you obtain your Ph.D. This was the time I realized that we (including Prasi) have now someone who can set the bar high. But we did not realize you were going to set the bar very very very high when you went back to India (teaching at Jain University, working with Deshpande Foundation, editing books, starting a consulting company….). I hope you have given this secret recipe to Prasi.
Me and Ruth were very happy (thinking of it now) about the heavy rains that lashed Hubli in 2019 summer. It was a blessing in disguise. Due to the rains, we spent an awesome time with you and your parents. I was quite surprised to see that you had kept the peacock feather that you guys got when you visited our farm in Belgium. You guys were a fantastic host. Do you remember you gifted a book for Vidya titled ‘Panchatantra stories’ (by the way I finished reading the book for Vidya this summer, 2020). Thank you.
Dear Rukma thank you for teaching us how to live life both in good and bad times. Also, for setting high standards that we need to follow. I hope you will continue to guide us to become better human beings. I promise that I will not disappoint you. But If I do, let us have a long chat when I meet you after my journey on earth.
Naveen
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I saw Rukma from her childhood days.I can not imagine she is no more now.I did not know her achievements till Sandhya told about it. I wonder how can a person did all these things such a small time.She achieved it with her parents full support. Unbelievable that was Rukma . Certainly she is there at Lord Krishna’s lotus feet.That is all I can say.
Kasturi
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More than three decades ago, a bright star from heaven fell on this earth without anybody’s notice,soon it morphed into a beautiful human being &was named Rukma.
But soon everyone started noticing this humble, beautiful star by her achievements which are innumerable. Anybody who came in contact even for few minutes were immediately attracted as iron foils to a magnet. Her charming personality, humbleness & bright academic qualifications make us to believe it is for ever. Alas! the destiny had it’s last laugh.God snatched this beautiful flower from us on a very auspicious day as per Hindu Panchang
We can do nothing but praying for eternal peace to ever smiling Rukma’s soul🙏
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Rukma was my school mate. I remember her as a very friendly, helpful and a smiling girl.
I have not met her after school, she messaged me when she visited the US, checked upon all our classmates staying here and tried to meet them.
She was a person who loved connecting with people. There are rare people who are gifted with both abilities and a good heart and she is one of them.
She is a good example of how a person should be and lead their life.
Its been very shocking to hear this news. May God give all the strength to her family members.
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“A BEAUTIFUL SOUL IS NEVER FORGOTTEN”
Rukma was a wonderful person with a beautiful smile and sweet dimples falling on her cheeks that lit up everyone’s heart.
Her kindness will live on.
She came to this earth to do great things and she succeeded. Her innumerable achievements have served as an inspiration for my daughters and many others.
The memories I have created with Rukma will always have a special place in my heart.
Like a shooting star, flying across the room, so fast, so far, gone too soon.
You will live with us in memory forever.
Love you dear.
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Rukma has been my dear friend since the beginning of early school days. As I sit down to pen my thoughts about her, I am filled with so many profound memories that I cannot forget. Our daily lunch breaks when we would sit down and eat together, our walks to the bus station after school, our school sports day practice sessions. She was a very sweet and kind girl with a warm affectionate smile. She was unlike any other students in school. Anyone who knew her would agree. She radiated an aura and would easily connect with every one around. She was favorite among students and teachers alike. I have always seen her as very supportive, encouraging and affectionate person. Although we were of the same age, I often turned to her for guidance. She always knew what was needed to be done. I admired her enthusiasm towards all activities. In all those years, I cannot recollect a single moment of sadness or grief. She was always cheerful and loved everyone around her. It was never casual for Rukma, it was always personal. She connected with every one on a personal level and was genuinely caring. Such a rare quality in today’s busy world.
In her short journey, Rukma has left such a profound influence in my life. I will miss my dear friend. But at the same time, I am grateful for the times we spent together. I pray for her to find peace where ever she is. She is taking on new journey and is continuing to spread her kindness and radiance some place else. I love you, Rukma and will forever cherish our friendship.
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Rukma u were my favourite student coz I was in charge of sending children for various inter school competitions Ihad such a confidence in u that u would bag a prize any where u go so without second thought I was sending ur n Prithvis name n u both never disappointed me u both were gd orators. Both of u were gems I was very proud of u. And before sending ur names I had to consult other trs also but I never used consult anybody coz I had confidence in my choice U both brought laurels to the school. After u left the school also all the Sr trs used to give ur examples to ur Jr’s n I was Vidya house mistress also heart of heart I loved all Prithvis Rukma Kanchana Kiran Keerthi love u all n proud of u all Rukma miss u I pray for u May ur soul rest in peace
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First thing that comes to my mind when I think of Rukma is the picture with all us cousins at Kanchana Akka’s house. It was one of the many fun evenings with us cousins and was beautifully captured in a photo with little Rukma standing next to Kanchana Akka with a sweetest dimple smile on her face. I still remember her laughter when she would tell her funny stories to her Atte or Kala Aunty and how both Pruthvi and Rukma would burst out laughing.
She would be so down to earth with such ease despite her huge accomplishments, would always be so simple and kind. My only regret would be that I was not in touch with her but I am glad I could talk to her the last time she was in the US. Though I wish I could have talked to her more often, I want her to know she was always in my thoughts.
It is just very hard to process the last few days. It has been over 10 days since you left us all but I am yet to come to terms with it. No words could describe the pain we have felt within us. Kala Aunty, Dilip, Deepa and Dheeraj will always miss you Rukma and we love you a lot.
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I have known Rukhma ever since she was a baby. She reminded me of my younger daughter-softnatured, compassionate towards others and always smiling. I still remember once when I stayed at Sandhya’s house both Prithvi and Rukhma had pampered me like anything. Sandhya was working in the bank then and as soon as she would leave the house, the girls would start their upachara.”Ramathe, ninkulu kuthonne, Ramathe ninkulu jaala ampade” (Ramathe pls be seated and relax)-those caring words still ring in my ears. Prithvi and Rukhma brought back sweet memories of my daughters while they were growing up.
Rukhma was connected to me on WhatsApp and every second day we exchanged messages and she would share her articles and paintings and many creations and I used to feel so proud of her achievements. A couple of years ago she paid a visit to Koppal and stayed with me and I was really touched by her affection and concern. I still can’t believe this beautiful creation of God has left us all but my love and blessings will be there for her wherever she be.
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Words fall short when I talk about you Rukma. An amazing friend with a beautiful smile. I got to know you personally when we were in 7th Standard. You were our Kamal house captain. After we completed our school, it took years for us to connect back again. I very fondly remember and cherish the day you visited my house in US with your mom, that too on a festive day. That was the first time we met after many years. I did not have to put in any effort and the bonding was so instant. And then, when I visited your house while I was in Bangalore couple of years back, you were so welcoming with all the visual treats that you treated me and my kids with. You even accompanied me and helped me with my shopping in Malleswaram. The time that we spent together is really unforgettable.
I have always admired the way you connect with everyone. Even when you were in US, you never missed an opportunity to meet all our school friends. That is one gem of a quality and such an inspiration for everyone around.
From then on, we were in constant touch. Even recently, when I needed some information to make an important decision which I had posted in our school group, you reached out to me personally and provided me with all the needed details. This was one of the last interaction we had.
One thing that really bothered me was my late realization – I am the last person to know about your demise (after 10 days, blame it on me not being active on whatsapp). This news has been very painful ever since and am still trying to come to terms with it. Will miss you but I am sure you are up there shining and smiling at everyone. I will cherish your friendship and you will always live in all our memories. Prithvi I am so sorry to have not reached out to you on time.
Strength to all the families and friends.
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Rukma is one of my favourite people, I have always admired her alot. I met her for the first time as a first standard kid studying at st.philominas high School. My son introduced her saying “amma she is my friend Rukku….. tuluthaal (tulu speaking girl)”. A cute and very charming girl greeted me with a smile that brought on gorgeous dimples. The very sight of her made me feel that she was a special girl and will groom to be a great personality in future. There after, I was very curious to know about her. She achieved hundred times more than what I had imagined. She was a very talented, intelligent and always topped in every thing. At the same time a very humble, sweet, soft spoken and loved by all. She was always unassuming of her achievements which was her greatness. It wont be an exaggeration if I tell she is an angel soul, an immortal beautiful soul.
I am really proud of Rukma’s achievements which she attained at a very young age. We will always remember Rukma, always . Rukma will live in our hearts eternally.
I love you Rukma.
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Dear Rukma, it’s your Mohan mama.
Oh, how I loved teasing you as “Mandaal Rukma” for the lovely Mandaal ogarne you used to make as a little 12-13 year old. And how well you gave it right back, calling me “Mohan mama” knowing very well that I hated being called that way.
From so many glowing, heartfelt messages written above, it is very clear that you touched people’s hearts deeper than anyone else I know.
People like you are only described in books. Benevolent, without any malice, without any hatred for humans and animals, forever smiling and forever positive. You were the fairy I’ve often seen described in children’s novels. You truly have become one now.
You have left behind a legacy of loveliness and compassion which will be cherished forever.
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Yes Mohan, she had immense compassion for animals. I remember how we both had rescued a kitten mauled by a tom cat in our garden. The mother had wanted to kill it as she thought her offspring was as good as dead in this state. But we rescued it again in the middle of night when Rukma heard a menacing sound near her window upstairs and alerted me. The next day we took the kitten to the vet who pierced it with an injection which brought tears to her eyes. In the days to come we both took turns to tend to the kitten and made it healthy with loving care, medicine and good food. Soon after she left for Belgium and the kitten Macky grew very close to me. She declared then that she had always wanted to open an animal care center named Ahava (a word picked up in Israel, meaning love) and expressed that Macky (named so due to a black patch on one eye like the actor Macmohan)was the first inmate.
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Yes Prasad, as awhile ago you remembered so well, AHAVA was also an acronym coined by her for “A Habitat for Abandoned and Vulnerable Animals”. So many ideas but health became the handicap for my baby.
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I briefly knew Rukma through my husband and later got to know her and Sandhya aunty well when they visited us in Boston. Even though it was a very short trip, she made sure she met everyone she knew in the area. I have never met anyone till date who has so much positivity. She is someone who has really lived by her name. Her smiling face, caring nature, thoughtfulness are something everyone who know her will remember her for. We will all miss you Rukma and really thankful for giving us those wonderful memories with you.
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It is hard to believe that Rukma is not with us. After reading so many memories, poems about her I was speachless .Her memories will be with us forever.
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Rukma has been an adorable ,admirable person Right from my childhood. I admired Rukma the way she carried herself in school .I saw in her love ,compassion,affection to every living being around her. She showed confidence in whatever she did in school activities. As a child I always thought how good one can be in behavior, in talking to elders or kids of her age or younger to her .Rukma was a kind ,sincere ,talented, of all caring for others even for the animals.the sensitive nature i saw in her for cats during our primary school which was my first experience to know that a person can be so sensitive to animals . The love for art and many things she had . In our ninth grade, Rukma took the initiative to send my painting to the Hindu and as a lovely surprise Rukma made me feel the hero of the day when it got published and got it announced in the school assembly …such a proud moment for our family ,cousins calling with excitement to see my painting in the news paper…she gave me that beautiful experience to feel so good and proud about oneself. Thanks to the technology that she reconnected to me in 2013(if I am right) when I got a call from Belgium and that was our dear dimpled smile Rukma …. glad i could share all this with her and met her in person finally in 2017 at Bangalore reunion… we have good memories and good thoughts left behind .proud to have Rukma as our friend for being such a beautiful, simple ,dimpled smile girl who sang kukku bara song that can be still heard …miss u Rukma
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Dear Greeshma, thanks for sharing your special experience. I really can’t say if Rukma had told me about this and I have forgotten or perhaps Rukma had kept it to herself. I remember you from your school days as one of Rukma’s special pals.
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Rukma… Sweet, adorable, gentle,kind, lovely, lively girl ( there are not enough adjectives to describe her) .
I was her class mate and still remember that little girl with 2 plaits and dimpled smile. It was nice meeting her after 20 years during school reunion.
As mentioned by my other friends she kept a personal touch with everyone, which makes us miss her very much.
Those conversations , which always had her suggestions and replies, will be missed and the void cannot be filled.
May God give strength to her family members to bear the loss..om shanti 🙏
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Rukma as the meaning itself describes the way she was…her absence has created a big gap in my life that cannot be filled by anyone…whenever I was disturbed in my office n household routines…coincidentally she used to call and encouraged me in her own way…and I always felt that I am lucky that I have a friend who read my mind…
One thing that I will always repent is that I could not receive her call on Oct 30…
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Dear Manjula, I know for sure that Rukma had a special place for you in her heart. She would speak about you with me. I remember the time in the US she and I had hunted for a suitable jacket for your dearest son. I’m sure she will be there always for you in some way.
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Hello aunty
So nice to hear from you….I have known you as very encouraging parent.you have beautiful daughters and brought them up so well mannered dignified sweet girls I ever met.felt light to have you heard aunty…thank you for giving us such a beautiful friend
🙏
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Rukma..such a beautiful girl with a beautiful soul too..thankful to have been her school mate..met her at first reunion n she didn’t seem to change a bit..the same warmth, cheerfulness n down to earth attitude…sure you must be keeping d heaven happy with your dimpled smile..
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I have always remembered Rukma as a one beauty with brain.When she had first come here with her father I really was impressed by her courage to shift her career from corporate to academics. She truly was an independent girl with a kind nature. Daily conversations amd sharing of food(she used to make Poha and other dishes ) every now and then brought us all closer and bound us into a family. She was very friendly with my daughters too.She used to visit Krishna Mutt and Indrali temple regularly reflecting her immense faith in God. Back then I would often hear sounds of taala and her chanting Vishnu sahasranama, Bajans and shlokas. She really loved this small place of Indrali,Udupi . I do recall her joyfully referring to a place nearby as peacock land where she often used to go and just enjoy the beauty of nature . She even had planted a sampling which now has grown to give so many beautiful orange flowers that marks memories of her in us till today. She was happy when her marriage was fixed with Prasad and I too was happy for her.
Nulinanthe seere thaayiyanthe Magalu, she was a replica of Sandhyakka. Her life in all sense was truly an example for simple living high thinking.✨
🙏”Devara aata ballavaraaru”🙏
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She was one of my best friends,who guided me in school time,the dedication to achieve her goal was important to her,a kind hearted girl and a person who was down to earth,she loved cats. I could never forget her giggles in our group discussion. Even though she spoke to me for few minutes after many years, I cannot forget her dimples and her beautiful smile, I miss you my friend. May your soul rest in peace.
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Rukma……a beautiful,pure hearted, ever smiling, treasure of knowledge,………how else can I define her? Seriously I’m finding short of vocabulary.
The golden girl, as her mother quoted, has reached the pinnacle of success at such a young age! What else is needed for the parents to be proud of? Her innumerable along with incredible achievements at such a short span of life have made her immortal. A star that had to shine eternally has vanished from this earth so soon! Isn’t this an injustice of God? May be He needed her more than us and took her to his abode, that too on a such divine day. I’m sure wherever she is she continues to spread the fragrance of her existence. Love you Rukma😘😘
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I have always known Prithvi and Rukma since my childhood, through their cousin and my friend Amari. I used to subscribe to a magazine called Gokulam and Prithvi and Rukma were regular contributors to it. I used to love reading their stories and would always pester Amari to introduce me to them. She was always so full of praise and I couldn’t wait to meet her “cousins from Bellary”. And finally, when I did ,I couldn’t help but notice how down to earth they were. I remember meeting Rukma for the first time very clearly. She was reading a book when Amari introduced me to her. The first thing that I noticed was her cute dimpled smile. Her simplicity and modesty touched me. I asked her what her name meant and she said it was derived from “Rukmai”,the consort of Lord Panduranga from Pandharpur. I choked while reading Prithvi’s homage, where she has specifically mentioned that Rukma chose “Karthika Ekadashi ” for her final journey. Life certainly came a full circle for her.
I met Rukma again after a few years during graduation. We were in the same class and she was such a delight. Friendly, supportive and positive, she was that one friend we all need in our life.
The one thing that I can never forget is that my first email ID was created by her at her home and she was the one who taught me how to surf the net. She had even suggested a quirky password and that is something I have never changed till date. It’s been 20 years to that. My husband often reminds to change my password for the sake of safety, but I have never felt like changing that one. I don’t use that account often, but have always held on to it for old times sake, as a remembrance of that wonderful afternoon I spent at her place, where she helped me learn how to explore a whole new world.
Though we caught up once in a while and updated about our lives, I feel really sorry for not being able to keep in touch as much as I would have liked.
Rukma, there’s so much to learn from your life. Your memories will always be close to my heart. I’m sure you have earned a special place in the heavens above. Rest in peace, my dear friend….
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My heart is overwhelmed by your sentiments. Stay blessed, dear Madhavi!
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Thank you, Aunty. I pray to the Almighty to bestow lots of strength to bear this irreplaceable loss
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Rukma
As i remember her as a dimple girl.
Kamal house captain of our school.
Always smiling.
I think after almost 15 yrs we got into touch again through the school whatasapp group.
She was the one i think the one among us most busy sending msgs and ideas,suggestions to all her friends.
But for me she had very high regards,she contacted me and then later i came to know how she went to become DR.RUKMA.
i was really very happy as she deserves that.
She was indeed all the more very happy and enthu when we planned for a communication wellness session for our MBBS students.
Though it took a year for us to organise, still we could make it via google meet ,almost this September she was with me actively involved .
I think this was one of her programs where she felt contented . I was very happy to show all my navarathri dolls in the video call
and my house ciz she was so caring,so much affection i really wanted her to come and stay with me at Srirangam and conduct some on ground sessions for our students.
I still cant believe, she is no more to discuss about the coming program we planned.
I was so much blessed and happy to have such a company to share our ideas for teaching and training the MBBS students.
I MISS RUKMA
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Yes, Ganavi ,we were indeed looking forward to the on ground sessions next year. Her sincerity and dedication towards work was incomparable. Every project she undertook became her mission until completion. An irreplaceable loss in every way for our family. We feel blessed that she impacted you as well. She had high regard for you. Stay blessed!
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Rukma (Golden girl) : A girl who is always smiling, soft hearted, down to earth, and a friend to her mother. Whenever I would hear her conversation with her mom, her talks was full of life, energetic, enthusiastic, inspiring .Last year she visited our house her guidance to my kinds regarding carrier and her knowledge makes me bow in respect and gratitude.You are always in our 💓 heart. Miss you alot
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Rukma (Golden girl) : A girl who is always smiling, soft hearted, down to earth, and a friend to her mother. Whenever I would hear her conversation with her mom, her talks was full of life, energetic, enthusiastic, inspiring .Last year she visited our house with her mother. Her guidance to my kids regarding career and her knowledge makes me bow in respect and gratitude.You are always in our 💓 heart. Miss you a lot
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Yes, Noorie, she was indeed my friend too! She always had plenty of suggestions and advice whenever she was approached for the same. We miss her terribly, like you do. That’s how she was with everyone.
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Dear Sandhya,
I can’t believe that Rukma is no more. This is a tragedy beyond comprehension and I’m too stunned and shocked to react.
Rukma had helped us at the Office of Communications, IISc on several occasions and her infectious enthusiasm and cheerful willingness saw us complete many projects in a timely manner. I will miss her. My condolences and prayers are with the entire family.
Please do take care of yourself.
Kaushal Verma
Office of Communications
Indian Institute of Science
(Posted with the consent of Prof Kaushal Verma)
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Dear Rukma,
What do I write about you? Can I sum up what you mean to me? Nope, never.. Perhaps my dictionary isn’t enough to find words to describe you or the relationship we shared in the last ten years that I have known you ..
For me you are my bright shiny inquisitive loving kind… And the list goes on.. friend.. Ever so dear..
I still have you in bright orange dress and colourful earrings ,lots of bangles with lovely hair and most beautiful smile with dimples in front of my eyes.. when u came to see Tvisha at the hospital when she was born.. The bond that we share has been very deep and the memories that are etched with you in my heart are beautiful.. Your kindness and thoughtfulness at all times is something which I always admired. I fondly remember the day you invited me for a sumptuous dosa breakfast during my pregnancy craving days and the love care and support that you extended towards me in my times of distress .
I am lucky to have had the opportunity to meet you twice during my last visit to India ..
You have made a big impression in my life and now there is a hollowness which will never be filled…
I deeply miss your physical presence but will always have you with me in my heart, in my thoughts .
Love you my lovely lady..
My beautiful friend with a heart of gold..
I know you will shine wherever you are and keep brightness around you.. Just like your name…. RUKMA..
Lots of love ❤
Yours
Nisha
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Dear Rukma,
I strongly believe that you were here to teach us how to be happy and positive in life…whatsoever. We shall cherish all your memories ever and ever. You will always be with us …in us.
I knew Rukma from work for over a year. She was an absolute joy to work with. Not only did she consistently showed her commitment to her role, but also always went beyond in her performance. And, in no time was awarded as a ‘Mountain Mover’ of the team that she truly was!
We are still in shock and needless to say that the loss is inconsolable.
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Dear Tanvi I feel touched to know your feelings about our golden girl, who was your your team mate and friend. She had a great time working with you all and she indeed had a special place for you in her heart and no day would be replete without mentioning your name to us. I remember she had sent a small token of love to you on your birthday from the hospital and felt so happy that you were so happy about it. And yes during our first ever conversation that we had in December you bolstered my beaten spirits by mentioning that Rukma had once expressed that she looked up to me, her mamma, and that she felt she was becoming more and more like me. When my world around me seems void I remember these words and I feel comforted that my darling daughter had nursed such sentiments about me. Thank you!
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